Could insecurity be the birthplace of desire?
As a coach, I am not entirely sure what I do. Despite having many years of training with some of the best in the world, there is a kind of #magic that happens when working with clients.
If I had to sum it up, the closest I could get to, would be that I see the person in front of me. They (normally) share with me their most personal, deepest #fears and #insecurities and my job is to love the sh**t out of them. I look past the chatter of their mind and their continual looping thoughts and I see and feel into their #greatest #potential, the parts of themselves that often are harder for them to see than their #negativity.
We seem to live in a society that idealises #success but puts an expectation on individuals to attain it without any #failures and to show no doubt or #insecurity in the process. We all have #weaknesses and #vulnerabilities, yet what has surprised me is that often this is where the gold lies…. Within #insecurity also lies hidden #desires.
If I asked you to look at some of your #goals or desires in life and then to look at your fears do you see any correlation?
Perhaps some of your desires are birthed from some of the challenges or failures you have previously experienced?
Working in the industry I do, I have become a little jaded about social media threads filled with promises of living my best life in 10 easy steps….. Is this not contributing to a secret inadequacy in which most people harbour a feeling they are doing something wrong?
For clarity, I am a massive advocate of personal development, it has #transformed my life and the people I have worked with, I can genuinely say that I am the #happiest I have ever been, I live a life which is #congruent with who I am and my #values. But does shit get hard sometimes? Yes absolutely. Do I get scared and worried I don’t know what to do? Of course! But I have also formed the closest friendships and bonds through my challenges and I have learnt my greatest #skills and #talents from my mistakes. Failure, mistakes and challenges are not optional in this life, it is how they are dealt with that determines the #quality of life you live.
I worry that this continual searching to be our best selves and live our best lives is actually derived from a sense of lack, or that who we are and what we have is not enough. We are telling ourselves that something needs to be ‘fixed’ and if something is needing to be fixed does this not inherently mean it is #broken?
What if we could be comfortable right now as perfectly flawed humans, with an array of skills and talents. A unique blueprint that no one else in the world has, already enough, already whole yet still #learning and #growing.
What if we took #action and pursued our dreams and goals with #love and #compassion for our fears. A deep interest in our failures and a #curiosity about what they can teach us. If we held our #humility and #greatness in equal measure. What could be possible then?
In my experience when we allow ourselves to entertain this perspective our whole world starts to change, we see things about ourselves we didn't even know were important to us, we end up in places we didn't know we were interested in and we feel an energy and magic of living.
I would love to hear your thoughts o the above, and if this resonates and you are curious to work through your own challenges please get in touch.
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'What we achieved in 5 weeks Would have taken 5 years, I feel like I have shifted on a fundamental DNA level.' Financial Investments
I have been to therapy for years and not really made much progress, I have done more with you in 5 weeks than in all the years of therapy. I don't know how you do it but you make change possible.' Physiotherapist